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A Recipe for a Successful Recovery
When I had just finished most of my treatment, a friend sent me this 'Recipe
For Success' which she had been given as a way to get back on track and
live life without wondering every day whether the cancer would return. It is
just perfect and a great mantra for everyone, not just those recovering from
trauma. Let me share it with you!

Beccy's Recipe for success!
Take 1 hour for yourself every day.
Always have fresh flowers in the house.
Have a belly laugh every day and .....
Get a dog!

With that in mind, we have also started hampers for dogs who help us all
with their loyalty and love - check out our website and give your special friend their own special hamper! One of the
good things about my ScamperHampers is that every time we sell a hamper
online we automatically donate to a less fortunate puppy via Monika's
rescues. So you are helping TWO dogs with just one purchase.


How to tie a head scarf

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6 Things in Life to Stop Chasing

Certain aspects of our lives can feel like a reoccurring anxiety dream. Always reaching for the end of rope that is always just a fingertip’s width away. But then again, we are relentless creatures – always moving forward, always running. We are always chasing the proverbial carrots at the end of the proverbial stick.


The problem lies in the fact that some of us are chasing the wrong carrots on the wrong sticks. There are things in life that we are lead to believe are the things that we should be pursuing, and the truth is, they just aren’t. No matter what anyone thinks, energy is a finite resource. So, quit chasing the things in life that are eating up that precious energy, and start focusing on what it is that you TRULY need.


Stop Chasing “THE” Dream.
I’m not in any way, shape, or form suggesting that you should quit dreaming, or pursuing dreams. I am saying make sure that it is YOUR dream that you are chasing. We are bombarded every day by what people think it is that we should aspire to. Our perceptions of what we want versus what we need are lost in commercialism, other people’s perceptions, and our own blind ambitions. Take a second to step back from everything else and ask yourself, “what is it that I want?” Until you know the answer to that question, how can you possibly know which direction to run in?



Stop Chasing Money
I’ve always said that “money can’t buy you happiness, even if it can take you more places looking for it”. It’s a cliche as old as money itself, but it’s as true today as it was the first time someone realized the wealth is not a condition of money. I personally judge my wealth by the people around me. Chasing money leads to working jobs that you hate, working hours that are killing you, and missing the days, months, and years of your life that you’ll never get back. If you’re so obsessed with a number on a paycheck that you are letting life coast by you in the background, what good is the money that you are making?

This theory extends to the pursuit of material goods, as well. Sure, a little retail therapy can enhance your life temporarily, but constantly seeking material goods is an empty practice. The is no prize for dying with the most toys. There is however a prize for being fulfilled – it’s called happiness.


Stop Chasing Attention
Again, I turn to the social media phenomenon that has taken over modern social society for this one. Everywhere you look people are crying out for validation and attention. One perfect example I love to use is what I call “vaguebooking”. We all have that friend that will post something like “I just don’t know what to do anymore :( ” and we are all expected to jump into their pity pool to rescue them. If you truly don’t know what to do in life, making a Facebook or twitter post isn’t going to do you any good. If you have a problem, talk about it. Express it. Keep in mind the boy that cried “wolf” – eventually people quit listening to him.


Stop Chasing Validation from Others
No one understands you, except you. No one has to like you, except you. If you base your opinion of yourself on other people, how can you be expected to like yourself? Inevitably, for whatever reason, there are going to be people in this life that simply don’t like you. By giving them sway over your own opinion of yourself – you are essentially putting them in control of your happiness. Guess what, they are probably looking for validation in others too, so why jump right in the same miserable boat? Realize that you are who you are, excuse the Popeye reference, and love you for exactly who you are. You’ll never be happy with anyone else if you aren’t happy with yourself.



Stop Chasing “Happiness”
Again, happiness is not something that can be obtained – it is a collective assimilation of several aspects of your life. Essentially happiness is a choice that you have to choose. You can scour the earth to find it, and if you don’t enjoy the journey for what it is, you’ll miss the whole point of the trip. That’s how life is: You can very easily miss the forest by searching for a specific, nonexistent tree. Believe me, if I could put “happy” in a bottle, I wouldn’t sell it – I’d give it away. Happiness is something that we all struggle with every single day.


Stop Chasing the Past
Walking through life looking back keeps you from seeing what is right in front of you. And then guess what? The only way to see it is once you are already past it. Life is in front of you, turn around and see it for what it is. Sure, reminisce – remember – relish – lean on past experience. But don’t blind yourself with what could have been to the point where you ignore what could be.

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10 Choices You Will Regret in Ten Years

Here are ten choices that ultimately lead to this phrase of regret, and how to elude them:

1.  Wearing a mask to impress others.

If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it.  Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are.  So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you.  You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people.  Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.


2. Letting someone else create your dreams for you.

The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find.  A big part of this is your decision to stay true toyour own goals and dreams.  Do you have people who disagree with you?  Good.  It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path.  Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing.


3. Keeping negative company.

Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you.  Don’t let them get to you.  They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun.  When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.


4. Being selfish and egotistical.

A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone.  Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired.  So carve your name on hearts, not stone.  What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains.


5. Avoiding change and growth.

If you want to know your past look into your present conditions.  If you want to know your future look into your present actions.  You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back.  If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success. Read The Power of Habit.


6. Giving up when the going gets tough.

There are no failures, just results.  Even if things don’t unfold the way you had expected, don’t be disheartened or give up.  Learn what you can and move on.  The one who continues to advance one step at a time will win in the end.  Because the battle is always won far away and long before the final victory.  It’s a process that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that glorious moment of triumph.


7. Trying to micromanage every little thing.

  Life should be touched, not strangled.  Sometimes you’ve got to relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement.  Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight.  Take a deep breath.  When the dust settles and you can once again see the forest for the trees, take the next step forward.  You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going to be headed somewhere great.  Everything in life is in perfect order whether you understand it yet or not.  It just takes some time to connect all the dots.


8. Settling for less than you deserve.

Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.  Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before.  Sometimes your eyes need to be washed by your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again.  Don’t settle.


9. Endlessly waiting until tomorrow.

– The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do.  But one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do.  And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t.


10. Being lazy and wishy-washy.

– The world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something.  So stop daydreaming and start DOING.  Develop a backbone, not a wishbone.  Take full responsibility for your life – take control.  You are important and you are needed.  It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday.  Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU.

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